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- Book Title
- Help Me Live, Revised : 20 Things People with Cancer Want You to Know
- Item Length
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- Trade Paperback
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- Self-Help, Health & Fitness, Medical
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- Diseases / Cancer, Caregiving, Motivational & Inspirational
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- 6.1in
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- 288 Pages
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Almost all of us know someone with cancer. And, of course, we want nothing more than to offer comfort and support, and foster hope. But we don't always know how-and may feel uncomfortable asking. Following her own treatment for cancer, Lori Hope created a survey for cancer survivors addressing issues they wanted their families, friends, and caregivers to understand. The results of the newly expanded survey are presented with honesty, insight, and humor, and complemented by scores of compelling personal stories from survivors of diverse ages and backgrounds. If you are a caregiver, Help Me Live will help you communicate more effectively and respond more compassionately. And if you are a survivor, it will help you feel validated, empowered, and, ultimately, hopeful.
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9781587611490
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Help Me Live, Revised : 20 Things People with Cancer Want You to Know
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Trade Paperback
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English
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Revised
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Diseases / Cancer, Caregiving, Motivational & Inspirational
Publication Year
2011
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Self-Help, Health & Fitness, Medical
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288 Pages
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8in
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0.8in
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6.1in
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9.9 Oz
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Revised Edition
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Reviews
"The perfect book for the newly diagnosed to recommend to family and friends!" -Dr. Susan Love, author of Dr. Susan Love's Breast Book and President of the Dr. Susan Love Research Foundation, "The perfect book for family and friends." -Susan Love, MD, author of Dr. Susan Love's Breast Book , President, The Dr. Susan Love Research Foundation "This book is a gift to anyone who has been touched by cancer." -Nancy L. Snyderman, M.D., F.A.C.S., NBC News Chief Medical Editor, Associate Professor Head and Neck Surgery, University of Pennsylvania "Lori Hope writes with an eloquence and authenticity that inspires all her readers. If you or a loved one have been touched by cancer, Help Me Live is required reading." -Greg Anderson, author of Cancer: 50 Essential Things to Do , Founder and CEO, Cancer Recovery Foundation Group "Lori Hope offers guidance that is always sensitive and often deeply illuminating. Please, please, read this book!" -Barbara Ehrenreich, author of BrightSided: How Positive Thinking Is Undermining America and Nickel and Dimed "This is a book every cancer survivor, as well as those who share our world, need to read. She says the words that none of us wants to say out loud and offers realistic explanations of how we all need to relate to our disease. This book can offer a great deal of comfort to those starting on the path of living with cancer." -Kathryn Joosten, actress, The West Wing, Desperate Housewives, and Scrubs "In Help Me Live, Lori Hope has created a masterpiece of compelling and heartfelt words of heal- ing that should be required reading for doctors, family, and friends of anyone traversing the cancer landscape." -Regina Vidaver, PhD, Executive Director, The National Lung Cancer Partnership "Even though I am a twenty-year survivor, I needed to be reminded about what people in the throes of cancer need, and Lori Hope's book is perfect." -Kathy La Tour, Editor-at-Large, Cure magazine "In working over fifteen years as an oncology social worker, it seemed as if Lori Hope had been sitting alongside me catching the rich insights and poignant narratives of our clients and then beautifully crafted Help Me Live to assist the world in truly understanding how one best helps the cancer patient." -Win Boerckel, LCSW, MSW, Director of Social Service, CancerCare of Long Island "Lori Hope's masterful storytelling and clear explanations are invaluable." -Wendy Harpham, MD, author of Happiness in a Storm, Diagnosis: Cancer, and Only 10 Seconds to Care: Help and Hope for Busy Clinicians "Always compassionate and pragmatic, Help Me Live breaks new ground with sections on children and young adults and cultural considerations-truly a wonderful resource for all of us." -Peggy McGuire, Executive Director, Women's Cancer Resource Center "Help Me Live is beautifully written and offers extraordinary pearls of wisdom on love, on hope, on survivorship, on friendship." -Laurie Fenton Ambrose, President and CEO, Lung Cancer Alliance "As a two-time survivor of breast cancer and a journalist, I found Help Me Live to be informative, touching, and even funny-and when it comes to cancer, you need a sense of humor. The author certainly lives up to her name." -Laura Marquez, ABC News correspondent "[Hope] writes exquisitely of the emotions and the roller-coaster ride of a cancer diagnosis and treatment. As a nurse educator, I plan to share this book with my students to try and give them some insight into the common experiences that many cancer patients have, as well as the uncommon ones." -Patricia Reilly, California State University School of Nursing "This book is invaluable for anyone diagnosed with cancer and for anyone who has a family member or friend battling the disease. Lori Hope, a lung cancer survivor, writes intimately, poignantly, poetically, and humorously." -Marc Silver, author of Breast Cancer Husband: Help Your Wife (and Yourself) during Diagnosis, Treatment, and Beyond, "The perfect book for the newly diagnosed to recommend to family and friends!" -Dr. Susan Love, author of Dr. Susan Love's Breast Book and President of the Dr. Susan Love Research Foundation "This book is a gift to anyone who has been touched by cancer-and that is most of us. At the core of Help Me Live Lori Hope offers a succinct and strong message-JUST BE THERE. In those three words she offers guidance, strength, and hope and underscores the importance of sharing our stories." -Nancy L. Snyderman, M.D., F.A.C.S., NBC News Chief Medical Editor, Associate Professor Head and Neck Surgery, University of Pennsylvania "This is a book every cancer survivor, as well as those who share our world, need to read. Lori says the words that none of us wants to say out loud and offers realistic explanations of how we all need to relate to our disease. This book can offer a great deal of comfort to those starting on the path of living with cancer." -Kathryn Joosten, actress, The West Wing, Desperate Housewives, and Scrubs, "The perfect book for family and friends." --Susan Love, MD, author of Dr. Susan Love''s Breast Book , President, The Dr. Susan Love Research Foundation "This book is a gift to anyone who has been touched by cancer." --Nancy L. Snyderman, M.D., F.A.C.S., NBC News Chief Medical Editor, Associate Professor Head and Neck Surgery, University of Pennsylvania "Lori Hope writes with an eloquence and authenticity that inspires all her readers. If you or a loved one have been touched by cancer, Help Me Live is required reading." --Greg Anderson, author of Cancer: 50 Essential Things to Do , Founder and CEO, Cancer Recovery Foundation Group "Lori Hope offers guidance that is always sensitive and often deeply illuminating. Please, please, read this book!" --Barbara Ehrenreich, author of Bright-Sided: How Positive Thinking Is Undermining America and Nickel and Dimed "This is a book every cancer survivor, as well as those who share our world, need to read. She says the words that none of us wants to say out loud and offers realistic explanations of how we all need to relate to our disease. This book can offer a great deal of comfort to those starting on the path of living with cancer." --Kathryn Joosten, actress, The West Wing, Desperate Housewives, and Scrubs "In Help Me Live, Lori Hope has created a masterpiece of compelling and heartfelt words of heal- ing that should be required reading for doctors, family, and friends of anyone traversing the cancer landscape." --Regina Vidaver, PhD, Executive Director, The National Lung Cancer Partnership "Even though I am a twenty-year survivor, I needed to be reminded about what people in the throes of cancer need, and Lori Hope''s book is perfect." --Kathy La Tour, Editor-at-Large, Cure magazine "In working over fifteen years as an oncology social worker, it seemed as if Lori Hope had been sitting alongside me catching the rich insights and poignant narratives of our clients and then beautifully crafted Help Me Live to assist the world in truly understanding how one best helps the cancer patient." --Win Boerckel, LCSW, MSW, Director of Social Service, CancerCare of Long Island "Lori Hope''s masterful storytelling and clear explanations are invaluable." --Wendy Harpham, MD, author of Happiness in a Storm, Diagnosis: Cancer, and Only 10 Seconds to Care: Help and Hope for Busy Clinicians "Always compassionate and pragmatic, Help Me Live breaks new ground with sections on children and young adults and cultural considerations--truly a wonderful resource for all of us." --Peggy McGuire, Executive Director, Women''s Cancer Resource Center "Help Me Live is beautifully written and offers extraordinary pearls of wisdom on love, on hope, on survivorship, on friendship." --Laurie Fenton Ambrose, President and CEO, Lung Cancer Alliance "As a two-time survivor of breast cancer and a journalist, I found Help Me Live to be informative, touching, and even funny--and when it comes to cancer, you need a sense of humor. The author certainly lives up to her name." --Laura Marquez, ABC News correspondent "[Hope] writes exquisitely of the emotions and the roller-coaster ride of a cancer diagnosis and treatment. As a nurse educator, I plan to share this book with my students to try and give them some insight into the common experiences that many cancer patients have, as well as the uncommon ones." --Patricia Reilly, California State University School of Nursing "This book is invaluable for anyone diagnosed with cancer and for anyone who has a family member or friend battling the disease. Lori Hope, a lung cancer survivor, writes intimately, poignantly, poetically, and humorously." --Marc Silver, author of Breast Cancer Husband: Help Your Wife (and Yourself) during Diagnosis, Treatment, and Beyond, "The perfect book for family and friends." --Susan Love, MD, author of Dr. Susan Love''s Breast Book , President, The Dr. Susan Love Research Foundation "This book is a gift to anyone who has been touched by cancer." --Nancy L. Snyderman, M.D., F.A.C.S., NBC News Chief Medical Editor, Associate Professor Head and Neck Surgery, University of Pennsylvania "Lori Hope writes with an eloquence and authenticity that inspires all her readers. If you or a loved one have been touched by cancer, Help Me Live is required reading." --Greg Anderson, author of Cancer: 50 Essential Things to Do , Founder and CEO, Cancer Recovery Foundation Group "Lori Hope offers guidance that is always sensitive and often deeply illuminating. Please, please, read this book!" --Barbara Ehrenreich, author of Bright-Sided: How Positive Thinking Is Undermining America and Nickel and Dimed "This is a book every cancer survivor, as well as those who share our world, need to read. She says the words that none of us wants to say out loud and offers realistic explanations of how we all need to relate to our disease. This book can offer a great deal of comfort to those starting on the path of living with cancer." --Kathryn Joosten, actress, The West Wing, Desperate Housewives, and Scrubs "In Help Me Live, Lori Hope has created a masterpiece of compelling and heartfelt words of heal- ing that should be required reading for doctors, family, and friends of anyone traversing the cancer landscape." --Regina Vidaver, PhD, Executive Director, The National Lung Cancer Partnership "Even though I am a twenty-year survivor, I needed to be reminded about what people in the throes of cancer need, and Lori Hope''s book is perfect." --Kathy La Tour, Editor-at-Large, Cure magazine "In working over fifteen years as an oncology social worker, it seemed as if Lori Hope had been sitting alongside me catching the rich insights and poignant narratives of our clients and then beautifully crafted Help Me Live to assist the world in truly understanding how one best helps the cancer patient." --Win Boerckel, LCSW, MSW, Director of Social Service, CancerCare of Long Island "Lori Hope''s masterful storytelling and clear explanations are invaluable." --Wendy Harpham, MD, author of Happiness in a Storm, Diagnosis: Cancer, and Only 10 Seconds to Care: Help and Hope for Busy Clinicians "Always compassionate and pragmatic, Help Me Live breaks new ground with sections on children and young adults and cultural considerations--truly a wonderful resource for all of us." --Peggy McGuire, Executive Director, Women''s Cancer Resource Center "Help Me Live is beautifully written and offers extraordinary pearls of wisdom on love, on hope, on survivorship, on friendship." --Laurie Fenton Ambrose, President and CEO, Lung Cancer Alliance "As a two-time survivor of breast cancer and a journalist, I found Help Me Live to be informative, touching, and even funny--and when it comes to cancer, you need a sense of humor. The author certainly lives up to her name." --Laura Marquez, ABC News correspondent "[Hope] writes exquisitely of the emotions and the roller-coaster ride of a cancer diagnosis and treatment. As a nurse educator, I plan to share this book with my students to try and give them some insight into the common experiences that many cancer patients have, as well as the uncommon ones." --Patricia Reilly, California State University School of Nursing "This book is invaluable for anyone diagnosed with cancer and for anyone who has a family member or friend battling the disease. Lori Hope, a lung cancer survivor, writes intimately, poignantly, poetically, and humorously." --Marc Silver, author of Breast Cancer Husband: Help Your Wife (and Yourself) during Diagnosis, Treatment, and Beyond, "The perfect book for family and friends." -Susan Love, MD, author of Dr. Susan Love's Breast Book , President, The Dr. Susan Love Research Foundation "This book is a gift to anyone who has been touched by cancer." -Nancy L. Snyderman, M.D., F.A.C.S., NBC News Chief Medical Editor, Associate Professor Head and Neck Surgery, University of Pennsylvania "Lori Hope writes with an eloquence and authenticity that inspires all her readers. If you or a loved one have been touched by cancer, Help Me Live is required reading." -Greg Anderson, author of Cancer: 50 Essential Things to Do , Founder and CEO, Cancer Recovery Foundation Group "Lori Hope offers guidance that is always sensitive and often deeply illuminating. Please, please, read this book!" -Barbara Ehrenreich, author of BrightSided: How Positive Thinking Is Undermining America and Nickel and Dimed "This is a book every cancer survivor, as well as those who share our world, need to read. She says the words that none of us wants to say out loud and offers realistic explanations of how we all need to relate to our disease. This book can offer a great deal of comfort to those starting on the path of living with cancer." -Kathryn Joosten, actress, The West Wing, Desperate Housewives, and Scrubs "In Help Me Live, Lori Hope has created a masterpiece of compelling and heartfelt words of heal- ing that should be required reading for doctors, family, and friends of anyone traversing the cancer landscape." -Regina Vidaver, PhD, Executive Director, The National Lung Cancer Partnership "Even though I am a twenty-year survivor, I needed to be reminded about what people in the throes of cancer need, and Lori Hope's book is perfect." -Kathy La Tour, Editor-at-Large, Cure magazine "In working over fifteen years as an oncology social worker, it seemed as if Lori Hope had been sitting alongside me catching the rich insights and poignant narratives of our clients and then beautifully crafted Help Me Live to assist the world in truly understanding how one best helps the cancer patient." -Win Boerckel, LCSW, MSW, Director of Social Service, CancerCare of Long Island "Lori Hope's masterful storytelling and clear explanations are invaluable." -Wendy Harpham, MD, author of Happiness in a Storm, Diagnosis: Cancer, and Only 10 Seconds to Care: Help and Hope for Busy Clinicians "Always compassionate and pragmatic, Help Me Live breaks new ground with sections on children and young adults and cultural considerations-truly a wonderful resource for all of us." -Peggy McGuire, Executive Director, Women's Cancer Resource Center "Help Me Live is beautifully written and offers extraordinary pearls of wisdom on love, on hope, on survivorship, on friendship." -Laurie Fenton Ambrose, President and CEO, Lung Cancer Alliance "As a two-time survivor of breast cancer and a journalist, I found Help Me Live to be informative, touching, and even funny-and when it comes to cancer, you need a sense of humor. The author certainly lives up to her name." -Laura Marquez, ABC News correspondent "[Hope] writes exquisitely of the emotions and the roller-coaster ride of a cancer diagnosis and treatment. As a nurse educator, I plan to share this book with my students to try and give them some insight into the common experiences that many cancer patients have, as well as the uncommon ones." -Patricia Reilly, California State University School of Nursing "This book is invaluable for anyone diagnosed with cancer and for anyone who has a family member or friend battling the disease. Lori Hope, a lung cancer survivor, writes intimately, poignantly, poetically, and humorously." -Marc Silver, author of Breast Cancer Husband: Help Your Wife (and Yourself) during Diagnosis, Treatment, and Beyond
Table of Content
Foreword by Rachel Naomi Remen, MD -- xi Preface to the Revised Edition -- 1 Introduction -- 7 Part I: 20 Things People with Cancer Want You to Know 1. "It's okay to say or do the 'wrong' thing." -- 15 2. "I need to know you're here for me, but if you can't be, you can still show you care." -- 23 3. "I like to hear success stories, not horror stories." -- 30 4. "I am terrified and need to know you'll forgive me if I snap at you or bite your head off." -- 37 5. "I need you to listen to me and let me cry." -- 44 6. "Asking my permission can spare me pain." -- 55 7. "I need to laugh--or just forget about cancer for a while!" -- 63 8. "I need to feel hope, but telling me to think positively can make me feel worse." -- 72 9. "I want you to respect my judgment and treatment decisions." -- 87 10."I want you to give me an opening to talk about cancer, and then take my lead." -- 97 11. "I want compassion, not pity." -- 101 12. "Advice may not be what I need, and it can hurt more than help. Try comforting me instead." -- 108 13. "I am still me; treat me kindly, not differently." -- 115 14. "If you really want to help me, be specific about your offer, or just help without asking." -- 121 15. "I love being held in your thoughts or prayers." -- 127 16. "Hearing platitudes or what's good about cancer can minimize my feelings." -- 133 17. "I don't know why I got cancer, and hearing your theory may add grave insult to injury." -- 139 18. "Don't take it personally if I don't return your call or want to see you." -- 144 19. "I need you to offer support to my caregiver, because that helps me, too." -- 151 20. "I don't know if I'm cured, and bringing up my health can bring me down." -- 159 And one more thing . . . 21. "I am more grateful than I can say for your care, compassion, and support." -- 165 Part II: A Quick Guide to Cancerquette 22. The 2010/2011 Survey -- 171 23. Different Kinds of Cancer -- 190 24. Cancer through the Stages -- 195 25. Cancer in Different Circumstances -- 204 26. Cancer at Different Ages -- 209 27. She Wants/He Wants: Cancer and Gender -- 225 28. Cancer and Cultural Background -- 234 29. Other Situations, Complications, and Conditions -- 239 30. The Lists: Do's, Don'ts, Tools, and Treasures -- 244 31. How to Listen -- 256 32. The Cheat Sheet -- 258 33. For Survivors: Hoping and Coping in a World of Uncertainty -- 260 Afterword -- 263 Acknowledgments -- 267 Index -- 269
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2011
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2011-015572
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616.99/4
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23
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